The other day, I actually had a man comment on myblog and ask me why women are becoming increasingly concerned and worried about their man's Facebook account and activities. He commented, in part: "my wife is always trying to look over my shoulder when I'm on facebook. I think she might even try to log onto my account and read my messages. It annoys me. I'm not doing anything wrong and she should know that she can trust me. Why does she do this when I've given her no reason to spy on me like this?" I'll address these questions in the following article.
Plenty Of Men Use Facebook As An Innocent Way To Keep In Touch With Others, But Some Men End Up Using It Inappropriately Or Cheating As The Result Of It: I can't speak as to why this particular man's wife was suspicious of his Facebook activities. But I can speak for myself and I can tell you what women often express to me. Many of us are on these sites also and we know that married men will often try to friend us, send us messages or photos, or make comments on our wall.
Many of us also know other woman who caught their boyfriends or husbands acting inappropriately or even cheating on these types of sites. And sometimes, the man doesn't even initiate this. It's so easy for old girlfriends (or women who hope to be new ones) to look at his photos, contact him, send him suggestive photos or messages, or make comments about him. Sometimes, it's not only that we don't trust the men that we love, it's that we sometimes don't trust other women.
And we read the articles of how social networking sites like Facebook are starting to be sited in divorce proceedings all over the country. In short, your wife or girlfriend likely doesn't want to be one of those women and she doesn't want for your relationship to one of those that are affected by this. She wants to keep your relationship from becoming a statistic and she wants to avoid any inappropriate behaviors or infidelities.
She might just be checking in to keep tabs and to stop any problems before they start or to put a stop to anything that she is uncomfortable with. So, what if you're a man whose girlfriend or wife is obsessed with your Facebook account? You can offer her reassurances. You can make good on your promises that you have nothing to hide and over time, she will likely come to realize that you're telling her the truth.
And if you're a woman who suspects your man is cheating or acting inappropriately on Facebook? Well, there are certainly ways to check up on him without him knowing, but it's usually preferable to keep things fulfilling in your relationship before you have to worry about this. It's much easier to prevent it from happening than it is to fix a relationship once it's broken.
I was in this same situation a short time ago. Unfortunately, I was right about my suspicions about Facebook. His account was one place where I was able to catch him acting inappropriately and cheating. I learned how to get concrete information and proof that my husband thought that he had hid and erased. And I found exactly what I feared. You can read a very personal story at http://catch-the-cheating.com/
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